Get Cozy: How to keep the darker days full of light

It's so important to put seasonal sadness in it's place, as it is something that happens to many people.  It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you.  Allow your self to feel the feels and invite new ways of warmth and light into your life.  Community, nature and exercise are all natural endorphins, add a new class into your weekly schedule. Movement and sweating are my favorite ways to beat the blues or learn a new skill.  Read a book that inspires you, there are so many things out there to help you create more joy in your life, find what fills you up and learn about it.  Open up that writing journal. Writing is the best way to get out of your head, move through you emotions with ease and understand what they have to teach you.  It's really one of the only ways to truly get to know your mind.  Drink a warm beverage at night(instead of booze).  Alcohol is a depressant, not to mention a buffer for unwanted emotions.  When we cover up our feelings with false pleasures, we never get to figure out how to feel with ease and they usually come back bigger and badder the next round.  It's okay to be down, what's the worst that can happen? Plus tea is medicine and a warm mug between your hands feels so good. Go for a nature walk. I love to hike in every season.  It's the best way to stay grounded.  When we have too much distance from the natural world, I feel like it's easy to lose site of what's really important.  To me that is love and connection. Notice how the cool weather opens up the senses in a different way.  Jump in some puddles. Playing and having fun for funs sake is something we really loose out on as adults, we really take ourselves way too serious.  I've yet to meet a kid with seasonal sadness... Host a game night.  Another great way to get in touch with your innocents, make your house warm with laughter and a little healthy competition. Bake something.Filling the house with smells from a warm oven and a little fluffy comfort never hurt any one.  While your at it, bake two and share it with your neighbor.  Giving is the yolk of humanness and creates positive vibes for your mind.  Bust out the crock pot. Nothing soothes the soul like homemade soup.  Make art!  Whether it's music or painting, working your creativity muscles is the perfect way to stay positive. Also...pop some vitamin D and grab a few full spectrum light bulbs. If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here to help you stay motivated and connected to your goals!

How do you want to be in the world?

Seeing and being seen continued: How do you want to be? Who do you want to be? Our circumstances don’t define who we are, we choose to allow them to shift our thoughts and feelings.  Is it possible to show up in every situation as the person you want to be in this moment and in the next regardless of your circumstances? What’s getting in your way? Is it another person? Situation?

Imagine a situation that usually triggers you to think in a way that causes negative emotions or reactive behavior. Now imagine that same situation where everything plays out exactly as you would ideally want it to. Visualize the characters involved, the setting, the conversation, any detail you can. How would you be in this ideal situation? What are all the best parts of you that would be honest, kind, present, helpful? Now imagine a future where ever situation is just like that, your ideal circumstance. You already know how you are going to show up: Shining. if you are by your self and no one is around and you are setting up your own circumstances, are you acting in this ideal way? Can what you Think be enough to sustain your unflinching ability to be in control of you no matter what or who shows up in your life. Why does someone else get to decide how you feel? They don’t.

Practice this: you get to be the person you want to be in every moment regardless of what you are doing. Our circumstances don’t define us, intact they are just tools to use to continue to evolve into a fuller version of our truest nature.



What are you thinking?

As the outer landscape continues to fade and the days grow shorter and cooler,  the inner world becomes quiet and softer.  When the body starts to slow down, the mind had a couple options, wander else where, or find the same stillness.  The ability for self inquiry can become more available at this slower pace. If we don't stop to pause to recognize the tools, skills and bounty we have already grown, will never become fully realized.  We will quickly move on to the first option of the mind, peace out and start planning the next best thing.  Goals are great, they are what keep us growing and discovering our unlimited potential, but we must tap into our creative wisdom to see what all of the resources we already own,  mixed with our true essence will produce.   This is what Brooke Castillo of The Life Coach School calls passive VS. massive action.  Will we just keep creating goals that don't really produce results, but just knowledge gained, making us think we have actually done something? Or, will we put in the work, get vulnerable and show up to see what our true creative potential is? Most of us interested in self inquiry know we must take action to reach our goals, the work must come from inside, no one can do it for us. We want to take action to live our dreams but can't  seem to get our from behind all of those self help books we've been reading.  And that's okay.  However, if you are interested in creating the life of your dreams, you need to at least start to ask the questions, why am I scared to be seen?  It's the perfect time of year to take some inventory of all you have grown and been storing in the cellar, not just this year, but your divine wellspring of knowledge from your entire life.  

Everyday ritual prompt:Take some quiet time for a writing reflection. 1) What is that one thing you have been waiting to do for so long, but everything seems to keep stopping you from doing so?  This can be anything from reading a book to launching a business.  There are no rules, it's just about your hearts longing that has yet to be fulfilled. 2) What are all of the thoughts surrounding the reason that this is not part of your current circumstance?  Don't censor your self, just keep free writing your thoughts. 3) Take the time to read each one once you are finished writing.  4) Next to the thought, write down how that thought makes you feel, what emotion is present. It can be the same emotion for many thoughts. 5) Now, from a place of reflection and openness, can you rewrite any thought that did not produce a positive emotion with a thought that will.  If any of your thoughts are based on circumstances that involve others changing, through those out.  We can't change other people.  We do not want our thoughts based on the actions of others.  We have to take control, with or with our people in our lives changing.
Once you answer these questions on paper, just a few moment for some deep breathing with your eyes closed.  If your body wants to move, let it go. This is just the beginning of taking control of your life.

Breathe, Relax, Feel, Watch, Allow

The amazing part of being human is our ability to step into the seat of witness consciousness. It is not something we are taught in school, or even by our parents, at least not in those terms. The opportunity to pay attention to our wandering thoughts and emotions that often times seem to take over, is one we fall short of taking advantage of most of the time. In my opinion, there are no emotions we have that are bad, they are part of our experience because they inform us about what is going on with how we are relating to our circumstances and our higher self. They should not be ignored, dismissed or put down. It is hard not to take our adverse emotions personally, but don’t! Your thoughts and emotions are tools, they are not the essence of your being. When we practice observation without judgment, we strengthen the muscle of pause.

The cornerstone of the Kriplau tradition of yoga I studied, is self-study. This technique I am about to teach you, is an amazing tool, meditation or mantra. Use it how ever you like to. In my “Dig Deeper” video, I guide you through the process as a meditation with additional cues.

Prompt: Next time you are experiencing anxiety, depressive feelings, self doubt, limiting beliefs or another emotion or thought that you would like to shift into something different, try this:

Find a quiet comfortable seat.

Take serval long, slow, deep breaths.

Repeat the five main key words to your self and take several breaths between each one.

It’s not enough to just to say the words but you need to shift your perspective to fully engage in each one. This will change your life if you use it.

BREATHE: notice the sensations of your breath, the rise and fall of the belly and chest, the stretching of the body. from the inside out.

RELAX: Lean back into the space behind you a little, soften any parts of the body you are holding, let go of tension.

FEEL: Notice sensations in the body and your senses.

WATCH: Tune into the witness consciousness. The ability to see your self just as you are right now.

ALLOW: As you deepen into that witness perspective, simply let your thoughts and emotions be what they are. They wash over you just like a wave and before you know it, it shifts.

When you first start this practice, go through the process several times. I suggest doing it as a morning meditation, that way it will become familiar to you when you need to call on it in a time where stuff maybe coming up, you will be able to access it more easily.

I am so excited to offer this tool to you. It is such a powerful way to take control of any situation you find your self in. Problems are only problems if we believe they are. With attention and action you can change the way you feel and think by paying attention. Keep up the good work and let me know if you would like to connect to gain some more insight and knowledge into this type of self inquiry. I would love to work with you.