Finding freedom in the flow. The truth about work/life balance.

There’s no such thing as a work life balance.

The reason that people find time management and prioritizing so challenging,

is not because of time,

but because as a society, we are out of sync with our natural rhythms.

I’m not here to tell you to read tarot cards or bathe under the moon light,

both wonderfully delightful practices,

rather, I am here to remind you that you,

are of the earth.

You are not a computer.

You were not born with batteries required.

You have free will of thought .

You would not be alive with out the atmosphere of the planet,

or without the other organisms and organic life that thrives here.

Everything moves in cycles and is connected, case closed.

The seasons, the sun, the moon, plants, animals, life and death.

This is the never ending wheel of change that we are part of.

So many of us resist it with all we have.

We hide out to avoid it,

or think, if we can get one more hour of work in, everything will be okay.

Not true.

The truth is, there is a natural ebb and flow to the state of our minds, bodies and essence.

There is no need to give in or fight it, there is simply an awareness first,

and then an allowing that takes place.

We live in a world where things don’t slow down because it’s winter, but we still can.

You may have to wake up and go to work everyday, tend to your children, home and self,

but the approach can shift beautifully along with your ever changing state of being.

If you pick a period of time to observe your energy level and overall desired way of being in the world,

you can start to get closer to how to tend to yourself in line with the cycle of you.

A good time of reference for me is a month.

For woman, their personal moon cycle is a very obvious way to watch your ebb and flow.

This cycle can be observed at all stages of a woman’s life.

From my observations and conversations, men who pay attention, have a monthly cycle as well.

You make simple observations of the state of the physical body, emotional body, and felt self or essence.

Just a few words to describe each.

Write them down.

And then act accordingly.

There are always ways to back off or put more out.

You don’t have to make school lunches everyday.

You can delegate tasks.

Find a more restorative exercise practice.

Go to bed earlier.

Say no to happy hour.

When you are feeling ready to rock,

get up earlier to go for that run.

Be more social during those times.

Finalize your house hold project.

Hire and accountant for crying out loud so that you can work on your art more! (note to self)

Not all the things on your list need to be done all the time, everyday.

If fact, when we force more than we are capable of, things suffer.

Working out of flow can create real stress in the body, too much of this turns into dis-ease.

Blanacing life isn’t about a perfect schedule,

it’s about paying attention to when you have more than enough to give

and when you need to replenish.

Even if the tasks you need to attend to are the same everyday,

there are choices we make that change our energy expendeture.

Mind Body Coaching gives you the tools you need to make flow a part of how you live your life.

It has changed how I approach everything.

It is work, don’t get me wrong, but the results are incredible and so worth it.

I believe reconnecting with our essences of being part of the naurtral world,

is how we can solve many of the problems we face on the planet today.

Start with your own life and see what happens.

Please reach out to if you feel called to incorporate Mind Body Coaching principals into your life.

…there’s room for you here.

mary@yogafiedsoul.com

Healthy habits vs. self care. What's the difference?

I have been practicing yoga for almost 20 years,

It has truly informed how I live the best life possible.

I can not imagine what my life without it.

The biggest gift I have received from my yoga practice,

is awareness.

It is such a simple concept yet it is everything.

Awareness is defines as: knowledge or perception of a situation or fact.

When I speak of the awareness yoga offered me, this is more along the lines of perception of the self.

The seat of the witness concsciousness.

Being able to see your self from an objective perspective.

It’s kind of an out of body experience.

View yourself from the outside.

Why is this important?

Without it, real personal growth and change is not possible.

Awareness allows you to be objective with compassion,

to yourself and others.

It is simply to observe and allow.

Then, change accordingly to achieve the desired results.

When you become aware,

you take responsibility for your thoughts, emotions and actions.

You can make informed decisions from a place of emotional adulthood,

because you know growth, change, joy and satisfaction are available to you.

There are many ways to stay in tune with this type of mindful thinking.

Meditation, journaling, yoga practice, contemplative walks.

These practices give space for your inner voice, your intuition, to be heard.

Recently, I have had the calling to slow down.

To really take time to just be, think and treat my self with extra care without rushing.

Really noticing my body. What it looks and feels like to the touch.

This is hard for me.

I am on the go most of the day.

I run two business, a house hold, have pets and a 3 year old.

I love every moment of it.

We are all busy.

But we make choices of what take precedent.

These priorities change and should.

If you are not in a cycle of changing, you are probably out of balance.

I know my body, mind and spirit call for different things at different times of the day, month and year.

And surly as I take more trips around the sun, my needs are defined with greater clarity.

For many years, my movement practice, from weight training to hiking, is a daily must do.

If fills me up. Gives me confidence and does inform me of what’s going on with my body.

If also encourages other healthy life style habits like water intake and eating a plant based diet.

however, It is still an active activity.

For many years, really most of my life, this was how I defiend my self care.

It was my number one priority.

As I continue to grow and understand my divine famine nature,

I am called to shift my focus on more subtle activities of nurturing.

The activities may be subtle but the need for their presence and their power, not so much.

The more I awaken to a part of me that may have been dormant for life times,

the presence of deep spiritually activating rituals

is a necessity for growth and personal success.

It is how I KNOW what to do next.

It is my new self care.

With out it, I am foggy and make decisions from a place of shoulds rather than must.

This atonement or realignment,

can come in the form of many things.

From my morning ritual to

lighting a candle for my self and the world.

Or

My personal favorite, walks for the sake of walks. To be with nature, by my self.

No music, no phone, no podcasts. Just me, Gaia, Life and maybe Llewey (my sweet dog).

These practices and more simply put are the things that

FEED MY SOUL.

But the truth is, most anything can with, guess what, AWARENESS!

To answer my own question, the difference between healthy habits vs. self care is just that, awareness.

Adding active awareness to any activity creates an intention and makes it a ritual.

Keep celebrating the ritual that is your LIFE!

There’s room for you here.

If you aren’t sure you know how, email or call me and we can make a time for a free heart to heart coaching mini session. I would love to help you celebrate!

Enjoy today.

Mary

What's your imprint?

Leave everything a little better than you found it.

This is huge.

And actually really easy.

It is how I live my life.

Notice a piece of garbage?

Pick it up.

Grumpy store clerk?

Smile and ask them how they are.

Something fell from someones pocket?

Return the item.

A person needs the door open?

Run ahead to help.

Connecting with friends?

Inquire further.

With a group at dinner?

Wait until everyone has sat down to eat.

Having a meeting?

Put your phone away.

Someone down on their luck?

Stop to say hi.

There are countless ways of leaving the world in better shape.

These are easy and they mean a lot.

Kindness is contagious.

It also makes you feel better about your life.

A little goes a long way.

I want to be a person that notices what needs to be done,

and does it.

Not so I can say I did.

But because I can sleep better at night,

and I grow with more awareness.

Take care of one another and it will catch on.

Lend a hand

Listen deeper

Pay attention

Show up

Lead by example

You’ll be surprised how this changes everything.

How my movement practice and yoga has made me a more informed Mother

When I move my body in ways that encourage me to breathe deeper, my ability to respond to life’s blessings and challenges in the present moment becomes more available.  Breath awareness creates a tool for the mind to be in body time, which is always in present time.  When caring for a small child, the need to be present is of the utmost importance, not only for reasons of safety, but so you don’t miss a thing when it comes to the sweet curiosity and awe experienced as they explore their new world.  The ability to be present also creates for me, a greater ability to exhibit patience, and that is the essence of practice in my mind. Presence, leads to patience, is practice.   Infants do not yet have the words to communicate their needs to us. This forces us to listen deeper in different ways, with intuition, and also much of the time, requires us to breathe deeper, exhaling frustration and inhaling waves of unconditional love.  

My movement practices consists of long walks or hikes, high intensity interval training, and daily yoga, even if it is only for 2 minutes. You know what they say, a down dog a day! My son and I have created my once workout and meditation room, that is now his bedroom, into our sacred space.  I have put down play-mats to cover half of the room directly in front of where I place my yoga mat.  Since he was about three weeks old, he has watched me move in silly ways, listening to music, dancing and jumping.  During this time he also participates in his own exercising and movement, having a space for belly down time, now rolling and soon crawling.  We explore movement together as well.  I incorporate him into some of the yoga and exercise movements I do, as well as giving him massage and we often lay on the floor to read or play with toys in this space.  As long as his needs are met, this time creates contentment, exploration and laughter for both of us. Because this time gives me a sense of accomplishment, endorphins, and joy, it makes me a better Mother because I now have more energy, self-esteem and over all, more physical strength and flexibility to respond more efficiently to the ever changing activities it takes to care of my son.

I take great pride in my ability to get a movement practice in everyday and not have to leave the house or my baby. Don’t get me wrong, a yoga class at a studio with out interruption is awesome, but to have found a way to embrace my new life as a Mom and incorporate my movement practices into Emmet’s life, is a great sense of accomplishment.  We make sacrifices as care takers, but with ingenuity and compromise, I don’t believe we have to give up what makes us happy.  On the contrary, figuring out how to accomplish what fulfills us personally and leave the dishes for later, only benefits everyone. It is also a great influence and I know Emmet will become more curious about ways to move his body and hopefully it will become an important part in his life as he continues to grow.