Spring Clean: How tidying up the mind first, creates lasting change.

Spring has sprung!

But don’t go bouncing off to the races just yet.

With the exponential growth of light, it’s easy to get ahead of ourselves.

We want all the flowers, vegetables, hikes, picnics, a clean and dust free house, and of course,

a beach bod.

This early part of the spring is the perfect time for decluttering, tidying up and ultimatly, discernment.

It’s not quite time to put plants in the ground or sunbathe,

so take this time for internal cleaning.

After a long winter things become a little stagnate, or habits of mind and body change, as well as our priorities.

This is a good thing, it served us in those quiet, darker days well.

Now that we can get out in the world again without cringing and more sun shining on us, we start to reconnect to the outer world, the nature that we are part of.

Take a couple weeks to do some slow moving inventory.

Make a ritual out of it. This makes it mean more.

Your personal time with nature and being.

Walk around your backyard and neighborhood with curiosity.

How do things look in the light now after the winter?

What’s starting to grow and bloom already?

Can you experience the changes all of your senses?

What does the outside world smell, taste, feel and sound like?

How are you feeling with the quickening of the sun?

Take some time to jot down:

What are your thoughts about the season change?

What emotions does it invoke?

What are the physical sensations of being in your body and in more sunlight?

What do you notice about your natural response to longer days?

What are you eager to get working on?

Was there an activity from the winter you want to bring forward into the rest of the year, maybe see how it can flourish practiced outside?

What can you leave behind that may have been an easy habit of comfort?

There is no real rush to get the house, your body and garden all in shape by any certain time.

It is all in your head, your beautiful brain with the power to change your life.

This year, take a step back.

Become an observer of change rather than diving in before you even see what has transpired.

From this place of calm clarity, observation and assessment of you and your relation to life and the world,

you can choose carefully how you want to spend your precious hours.

My suggestion is take a week to drink more water, go on some nice intentional walks, or simply sit in the sun observing.

Make note of the quality of your thoughts, emotions and sensations in your body.

Take some meals outside with out any stimulation other than what nature has in-store.

Notice if your mind is racing for more.

Allowing the mind to be bored, is how we find presence and gratitude.

It is where great ideas are born and it is how we get to really know who we are.

When you start the process of change from the inside first you build the muscle of discernment.

This is a skill you can take anywhere with you.

A tidy house helps trigger positive thoughts and emotions, but our circumstances are not always in our control.

To be able to be in the change and chaos of life as an active observer is an invaluable asset to own.

I invite you to become an expert at it.

I have many tools to aid in this process to create ultimate ease of change and enjoyment.

Reach out for a phone consult. I would love to connect and hear about what is present for you.

Let’s make the most of the changes around us and in us. A more relaxed state of being might just change the world.

Happy Spring!

Mary

Problems to Power

Everything is perspective.

Struggles are real,

but challenges turn victims into hero’s.

It’s not the absence of fear that creates courage,

yet the ability to move through it that invites transformation.

A problem is defined as: a matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome.

Bingo.

Problems aren’t circumstances we let control our lives.

Problems are situations to deal with and overcome.

Complaining, blaming and taking the roll of the victim are not solutions.

This type of inactive behavior does nothing but reinforce the presence of the problem.

Why do we choose to act this way?

It’s instant.

There is little efforting required.

We think it makes us feel better.

It temporarily relives us of our responsibility for all of our thoughts, feelings and actions.

It postpones the inevitable tasks of facing our emotions and setting up boundaries.

Dealing with our problems means we have to use emotional maturity.

We have to take power over how we decide to feel,

and allow other’s to choose the same for themselves.

Taking control and responsibility over what we can in our lives reinforces the habit of thinking on purpose.

This is the act of decrement.

Know what you can change and what you can’t.

When it comes to other people, you do not have control over them,

and they do not have control over you.

Not how you think, feel or act.

Someone’s actions may influence a thought,

but it is always ultimately up to you to decide to think that thought,

no matter how automatic it may seem.

When faced with a problem, spend some time discovering your thoughts about it.

How you are choosing to think.

An example of this could be: I don’t have enough time for exercise.

This is a result of how I am choosing to spend my time.

My thoughts are prioritizing other things.

They are also determining when I go to bed and when I wake up.

I need to understand that 24 hours in a day is a fact that I can not change,

but I do have control over how I spend those hours.

This gives me the power back over my “problem” of limited time, discerning facts from thoughts.

Committing to waking up earlier or going to sleep earlier is the first way to gain more hours.

Time tracking for a week to see where I can trim some fat of unneeded tasks,

is another great way to gain more time.

Problems to power is about asking what is important enough to prioritize.

If I am unwilling to take make the changes necessary

and the problem persists,

the other option is to change my thoughts and allow it to be okay.

This way of problem solving at first can seem overwhelming and not fair.

But when we decide to live like an adult that has free will and critical thinking,

we will start to easily see how managing the mind

is the only way to be in control of life.

I have an 8 week program called From Problems To Power.

I take you step by step through the necessary actions in an effort to getting to know you better,

what you have control over and what you don’t, and how to feel good about all of it.

Taking responsibility for every part of your life can bring up feelings of anxiety and fear.

This just means you are getting closer to the truth.

If you are interested in being the boss of your own life,

I will invite you to a free heart to heart mini coaching session.

Life is a wild, amazing ride.

You can choose to hang on to the outside flailing around as the wheel of change keeps spinning,

or you can decide to sit calmly in the middle, allowing and observing as change moves around you,

like a beautiful setting sun.

In this process you will find,

there’s room for you here.

In inspiration,

Mary xo

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