Finding freedom in the flow. The truth about work/life balance.

There’s no such thing as a work life balance.

The reason that people find time management and prioritizing so challenging,

is not because of time,

but because as a society, we are out of sync with our natural rhythms.

I’m not here to tell you to read tarot cards or bathe under the moon light,

both wonderfully delightful practices,

rather, I am here to remind you that you,

are of the earth.

You are not a computer.

You were not born with batteries required.

You have free will of thought .

You would not be alive with out the atmosphere of the planet,

or without the other organisms and organic life that thrives here.

Everything moves in cycles and is connected, case closed.

The seasons, the sun, the moon, plants, animals, life and death.

This is the never ending wheel of change that we are part of.

So many of us resist it with all we have.

We hide out to avoid it,

or think, if we can get one more hour of work in, everything will be okay.

Not true.

The truth is, there is a natural ebb and flow to the state of our minds, bodies and essence.

There is no need to give in or fight it, there is simply an awareness first,

and then an allowing that takes place.

We live in a world where things don’t slow down because it’s winter, but we still can.

You may have to wake up and go to work everyday, tend to your children, home and self,

but the approach can shift beautifully along with your ever changing state of being.

If you pick a period of time to observe your energy level and overall desired way of being in the world,

you can start to get closer to how to tend to yourself in line with the cycle of you.

A good time of reference for me is a month.

For woman, their personal moon cycle is a very obvious way to watch your ebb and flow.

This cycle can be observed at all stages of a woman’s life.

From my observations and conversations, men who pay attention, have a monthly cycle as well.

You make simple observations of the state of the physical body, emotional body, and felt self or essence.

Just a few words to describe each.

Write them down.

And then act accordingly.

There are always ways to back off or put more out.

You don’t have to make school lunches everyday.

You can delegate tasks.

Find a more restorative exercise practice.

Go to bed earlier.

Say no to happy hour.

When you are feeling ready to rock,

get up earlier to go for that run.

Be more social during those times.

Finalize your house hold project.

Hire and accountant for crying out loud so that you can work on your art more! (note to self)

Not all the things on your list need to be done all the time, everyday.

If fact, when we force more than we are capable of, things suffer.

Working out of flow can create real stress in the body, too much of this turns into dis-ease.

Blanacing life isn’t about a perfect schedule,

it’s about paying attention to when you have more than enough to give

and when you need to replenish.

Even if the tasks you need to attend to are the same everyday,

there are choices we make that change our energy expendeture.

Mind Body Coaching gives you the tools you need to make flow a part of how you live your life.

It has changed how I approach everything.

It is work, don’t get me wrong, but the results are incredible and so worth it.

I believe reconnecting with our essences of being part of the naurtral world,

is how we can solve many of the problems we face on the planet today.

Start with your own life and see what happens.

Please reach out to if you feel called to incorporate Mind Body Coaching principals into your life.

…there’s room for you here.

mary@yogafiedsoul.com

Problems to Power

Everything is perspective.

Struggles are real,

but challenges turn victims into hero’s.

It’s not the absence of fear that creates courage,

yet the ability to move through it that invites transformation.

A problem is defined as: a matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome.

Bingo.

Problems aren’t circumstances we let control our lives.

Problems are situations to deal with and overcome.

Complaining, blaming and taking the roll of the victim are not solutions.

This type of inactive behavior does nothing but reinforce the presence of the problem.

Why do we choose to act this way?

It’s instant.

There is little efforting required.

We think it makes us feel better.

It temporarily relives us of our responsibility for all of our thoughts, feelings and actions.

It postpones the inevitable tasks of facing our emotions and setting up boundaries.

Dealing with our problems means we have to use emotional maturity.

We have to take power over how we decide to feel,

and allow other’s to choose the same for themselves.

Taking control and responsibility over what we can in our lives reinforces the habit of thinking on purpose.

This is the act of decrement.

Know what you can change and what you can’t.

When it comes to other people, you do not have control over them,

and they do not have control over you.

Not how you think, feel or act.

Someone’s actions may influence a thought,

but it is always ultimately up to you to decide to think that thought,

no matter how automatic it may seem.

When faced with a problem, spend some time discovering your thoughts about it.

How you are choosing to think.

An example of this could be: I don’t have enough time for exercise.

This is a result of how I am choosing to spend my time.

My thoughts are prioritizing other things.

They are also determining when I go to bed and when I wake up.

I need to understand that 24 hours in a day is a fact that I can not change,

but I do have control over how I spend those hours.

This gives me the power back over my “problem” of limited time, discerning facts from thoughts.

Committing to waking up earlier or going to sleep earlier is the first way to gain more hours.

Time tracking for a week to see where I can trim some fat of unneeded tasks,

is another great way to gain more time.

Problems to power is about asking what is important enough to prioritize.

If I am unwilling to take make the changes necessary

and the problem persists,

the other option is to change my thoughts and allow it to be okay.

This way of problem solving at first can seem overwhelming and not fair.

But when we decide to live like an adult that has free will and critical thinking,

we will start to easily see how managing the mind

is the only way to be in control of life.

I have an 8 week program called From Problems To Power.

I take you step by step through the necessary actions in an effort to getting to know you better,

what you have control over and what you don’t, and how to feel good about all of it.

Taking responsibility for every part of your life can bring up feelings of anxiety and fear.

This just means you are getting closer to the truth.

If you are interested in being the boss of your own life,

I will invite you to a free heart to heart mini coaching session.

Life is a wild, amazing ride.

You can choose to hang on to the outside flailing around as the wheel of change keeps spinning,

or you can decide to sit calmly in the middle, allowing and observing as change moves around you,

like a beautiful setting sun.

In this process you will find,

there’s room for you here.

In inspiration,

Mary xo

contact me here.

Free Will: your human experience bonus.

Free will has been a philosophical debate for centuries, as it stands, most all constructs of society depend a great deal on the fact that we as human beings have, “voluntary choice or decision”, according to the Merriam-Webster definition. I would wager that most people believe that they choose what they do, freely.

What I know to be true for life is, that there are things we DO NOT have control over, these are facts that exist outside of ourselves, (other people, the weather, etc…). Then there are the things we DO have control over, namely, our minds. These are our perceptions, intentions and ideas. These inform how we think, feel and interact with that which we do not have control over. Of course, there are countless amount of outside factors that can influence how we think, feel and ultimately respond, but if we build a more intimate relationship with the workings of our own mind, the outside influences have much less power over our minds.

Abraham-Hicks, the highly regarded law of attraction guru says that “ a belief is a thought you keep thinking.” This is how we turn the Facts of our life into problems. We keep thinking the thought that this one thing sucks over and over again, and becomes our truth. There are a couple of options. If you hate your job, you can either A) quit B) make it a problem you dwell on OR C) change the way you think about it.

This is where setting a “Life Intention” comes into play. If you know how you want to be in the world in every moment, your intention for living your best life is predetermined by you, no external factors can shake that. You remember your values, ideals and goals. You can be in any situation and respond the same by paying attention to your thoughts. This doesn’t mean you are always happy, but you can be in a state of acceptnace about feeling what’s true to you, not predetermined by someone else free will.

Choose your thoughts, feel your feels and live with free will as the reminder that ultimatly, it’s up to you.