Healthy habits vs. self care. What's the difference?

I have been practicing yoga for almost 20 years,

It has truly informed how I live the best life possible.

I can not imagine what my life without it.

The biggest gift I have received from my yoga practice,

is awareness.

It is such a simple concept yet it is everything.

Awareness is defines as: knowledge or perception of a situation or fact.

When I speak of the awareness yoga offered me, this is more along the lines of perception of the self.

The seat of the witness concsciousness.

Being able to see your self from an objective perspective.

It’s kind of an out of body experience.

View yourself from the outside.

Why is this important?

Without it, real personal growth and change is not possible.

Awareness allows you to be objective with compassion,

to yourself and others.

It is simply to observe and allow.

Then, change accordingly to achieve the desired results.

When you become aware,

you take responsibility for your thoughts, emotions and actions.

You can make informed decisions from a place of emotional adulthood,

because you know growth, change, joy and satisfaction are available to you.

There are many ways to stay in tune with this type of mindful thinking.

Meditation, journaling, yoga practice, contemplative walks.

These practices give space for your inner voice, your intuition, to be heard.

Recently, I have had the calling to slow down.

To really take time to just be, think and treat my self with extra care without rushing.

Really noticing my body. What it looks and feels like to the touch.

This is hard for me.

I am on the go most of the day.

I run two business, a house hold, have pets and a 3 year old.

I love every moment of it.

We are all busy.

But we make choices of what take precedent.

These priorities change and should.

If you are not in a cycle of changing, you are probably out of balance.

I know my body, mind and spirit call for different things at different times of the day, month and year.

And surly as I take more trips around the sun, my needs are defined with greater clarity.

For many years, my movement practice, from weight training to hiking, is a daily must do.

If fills me up. Gives me confidence and does inform me of what’s going on with my body.

If also encourages other healthy life style habits like water intake and eating a plant based diet.

however, It is still an active activity.

For many years, really most of my life, this was how I defiend my self care.

It was my number one priority.

As I continue to grow and understand my divine famine nature,

I am called to shift my focus on more subtle activities of nurturing.

The activities may be subtle but the need for their presence and their power, not so much.

The more I awaken to a part of me that may have been dormant for life times,

the presence of deep spiritually activating rituals

is a necessity for growth and personal success.

It is how I KNOW what to do next.

It is my new self care.

With out it, I am foggy and make decisions from a place of shoulds rather than must.

This atonement or realignment,

can come in the form of many things.

From my morning ritual to

lighting a candle for my self and the world.

Or

My personal favorite, walks for the sake of walks. To be with nature, by my self.

No music, no phone, no podcasts. Just me, Gaia, Life and maybe Llewey (my sweet dog).

These practices and more simply put are the things that

FEED MY SOUL.

But the truth is, most anything can with, guess what, AWARENESS!

To answer my own question, the difference between healthy habits vs. self care is just that, awareness.

Adding active awareness to any activity creates an intention and makes it a ritual.

Keep celebrating the ritual that is your LIFE!

There’s room for you here.

If you aren’t sure you know how, email or call me and we can make a time for a free heart to heart coaching mini session. I would love to help you celebrate!

Enjoy today.

Mary

Finding your way in the dark

What is significant about a new moon?

To some it means absolutely nothing.

To others, they plan their days around the lunar cycle.

Does it change your life regardless if you are aware of it or not?

I think so.

The moon is our closest celestial sister.

Many things on earth work they way they do because of the presence of the moon.

If you choose to pay attention, it becomes obvious.

The new moon for me represents a blank slate of limitless possibilities.

If you had a black chalkboard that represented your life, what would you draw?

Being the last new moon of the year, I think it’s important to answer this question

with refection on the year that has past.

I tend to focus my energy on the the things that really blossomed

and what supported that growth.

Appreciation for the existence of something keeps it thriving.

What was useful that helped you grow this year?

How can you nourish that, so it keeps supporting you?

When I ask my self this question, two things come up.

One, is my dear life partner.

And the other is a time this year of deep re-membering.

I want to feed and nourish these things so they continue to help me flourish.

So I can add to the amazing gifts they all ready offer in my life.

My partner and I went through great transformation and dove deeper into our intimacy.

Not to mention his presence as an active co-listener, guide and collaborator.

This made room for my own personal journey inward to grow and expand.

I was lead to a retreat where I connected with a sisterhood I was longing for.

There I found a deep rooted space for the new phase in my life as a Mother.

And the reclamation of the Creatrix, Witch, Goddess and Priestess I have always been.

It changed everything.

On this Dark Moon, I give space for those gifts in my life to run wild.

To visualize how I want to honor and feed them.

And also how I want to continue to grow in the light of such beauty.

Finding your way in the dark means there’s no right or wrong way,

there’s no path laid out for you.

Only the calling of your cosmic hearts desires and dreams.

You get to decide what to take with you and what can stay behind.

I’m choosing to take into the dark those things which bring light into my life.

So when I am scared or lost, I will have a beacon to take refuge in.

The path is always yours to choose, but choose what comes along for the ride wisely.

I invite you to begin the preparations for the new year now.

Take your time.

Reflect and really think about what you want to draw on your chalkboard.

The light of the moon will be back soon with new messaged to share.

Until then, dream wildly.

There’s room for you here.

New Moon Blessings,

Mary