Renovating your mind.

Most people don’t know I own a residential remodeling company.

My role is limited, but I do cut tile, answer emails and review bids.

It’s amazing that people send 10’s of thousands of dollars to fix things that aren’t broken.

We take pride in keeping old homes beautiful and functioning, in restoration rather than demolishing,

but the aesthetic pleasure one gets from a newly tiled bathroom,

is fleeting, at best.

Remodeling in many ways is like coaching,

except managing your thoughts and mind,

will actually create real, long lasting pleasure and the skill to allow for all of life’s ups and downs.

When someone wants to remodel their bathroom they get excited.

They start dreaming about this new luxury.

They start Pinning things,

matching colors, tile, accessories.

By using their mind alone and thoughts, before the demo has even begun,

they are already experiencing more feelings of joy and satisfaction.

They make the plan,

save the money,

and hire a professional.

Together the clients and the contractor finalize practical designs, based on their needs and likes.

They get creative, negotiate a price

and get to work.

There is open communication throughout the process of obstacles and decisions that need to be made.

The clients have work they must do for the final product to be the result they want

and the contractor has to show up to fulfill the contract and hold space to keep the project flowing.

The bathroom is complete and beautiful beyond words.

The clients couldn’t believe that space they once loathed, could be so clean, tidy and almost therapeutic.

Showers are now a spiritual experience of self care and adoration.

However, time goes on, soap scum covers the new glass shower door

and the once sparkling grout begins to fade and look dull.

The luster had been lost and forgotten.

The couple has an argument and unspoken agreements about who is responsible for the maintenance of this

new luxury that was suppose to bring so much joy, taking all of their troubles away.

Debt from the project becomes a source of stress and one of the kids is failing at school.

The only things the shower now offers is a place to hide from the world,

but now it holds with it a gentle sting of the promise of a new day that ceased to deliver.

This tale starts to sound grim, but the point is,

life is 50/50, ups and downs ALWAYS.

No matter how expensive your tile is, or how much money you have,

or how few wrinkles you have or how much you weight, or how many flowers your lover buys you.

Until you invest in your mental health, there is not one thing you can change in your world that will take the sometimes subtle sting of life away.

You have to learn to create your own joy from your thoughts, and manage your sadness through a process of allowing.

Get creative.

Start Pinning the life you Think will make you happy

and start living like the person that already has all of those things.

If your thoughts about them can create a sense of joy,

your thoughts about all of your blessings now can too.

If you can’t quite hit the nail,

hire a professional to help you organize the project of renovating your mind.

My name is Mary Wagstaff, I am a mind body coach.

My mission is to keep the beauty and health of your wonderful mind that already exists

through love, appreciation and restoration, not demolition.

You’ll also save a ton a money in the later route to happiness.

When you find the happiness you seek inside, then lets’ talk tile.


Oh the Thinks you can Think!

As the year comes to a close,

light is limited and

the working world slows a little to invite time for celebrating.

It is the perfect opportunity

to take the time now, while you have it,

to ask your self what is present for me?

We spend our days filling our minds with thoughts that distract us from our real goals.

It’s time, for me anyway, to stop the needless distraction,

and get focused on the nitty-gritty.

I often use the excuse that I can’t get real work done when I am home with my son.

But the truth is, if it is a priority, I can make a schedule that works.

What is important to you?

What problems would you like to solve?

What are the real “facts” about your situation

and what is created mind drama?

If you can sift through the BS of your mind,

you’ll find there is plenty ample opportunity

to spend your time in a way that produces the results you are looking for.

We distract our minds for many reasons.

One, because we are scared of failure,

and two, because when we get crystal clear about who is in charge,

there’s no one else to blame.

Failure is nothing but being in the exact same place a you are now,

except you have more information for the next attempt,

and you can at least say you tried.

When we do nothing, there’s no chance for success.

And self responsibility…it’s time to take your power back.

It’s actually very empowering,

to take the time, to manage your life

by managing your mind.

With practice we can choose what thoughts to think on propose.

Then we take responsibility for the choice of how to spend our time, money and energy.

I am empowering my self to talk less and reflect more.

To use the time I would be “venting” or expressing my self about my life,

and write, read or meditate.

With this I can better understand what thoughts are no longer of service.

I think it’s 100% necessary to self reflect if you are interested in growth, in any area of your life.

I have a ton of tools that can help you start thinking the thinks that are inline with the life you most desire.

Contact me to talk about Mind Body Coaching.

-Think! Think and wonder. Wonder and think. Oh the Thinks you can Think up, only if you try! (Dr. Seuss)