Spring Clean: How tidying up the mind first, creates lasting change.

Spring has sprung!

But don’t go bouncing off to the races just yet.

With the exponential growth of light, it’s easy to get ahead of ourselves.

We want all the flowers, vegetables, hikes, picnics, a clean and dust free house, and of course,

a beach bod.

This early part of the spring is the perfect time for decluttering, tidying up and ultimatly, discernment.

It’s not quite time to put plants in the ground or sunbathe,

so take this time for internal cleaning.

After a long winter things become a little stagnate, or habits of mind and body change, as well as our priorities.

This is a good thing, it served us in those quiet, darker days well.

Now that we can get out in the world again without cringing and more sun shining on us, we start to reconnect to the outer world, the nature that we are part of.

Take a couple weeks to do some slow moving inventory.

Make a ritual out of it. This makes it mean more.

Your personal time with nature and being.

Walk around your backyard and neighborhood with curiosity.

How do things look in the light now after the winter?

What’s starting to grow and bloom already?

Can you experience the changes all of your senses?

What does the outside world smell, taste, feel and sound like?

How are you feeling with the quickening of the sun?

Take some time to jot down:

What are your thoughts about the season change?

What emotions does it invoke?

What are the physical sensations of being in your body and in more sunlight?

What do you notice about your natural response to longer days?

What are you eager to get working on?

Was there an activity from the winter you want to bring forward into the rest of the year, maybe see how it can flourish practiced outside?

What can you leave behind that may have been an easy habit of comfort?

There is no real rush to get the house, your body and garden all in shape by any certain time.

It is all in your head, your beautiful brain with the power to change your life.

This year, take a step back.

Become an observer of change rather than diving in before you even see what has transpired.

From this place of calm clarity, observation and assessment of you and your relation to life and the world,

you can choose carefully how you want to spend your precious hours.

My suggestion is take a week to drink more water, go on some nice intentional walks, or simply sit in the sun observing.

Make note of the quality of your thoughts, emotions and sensations in your body.

Take some meals outside with out any stimulation other than what nature has in-store.

Notice if your mind is racing for more.

Allowing the mind to be bored, is how we find presence and gratitude.

It is where great ideas are born and it is how we get to really know who we are.

When you start the process of change from the inside first you build the muscle of discernment.

This is a skill you can take anywhere with you.

A tidy house helps trigger positive thoughts and emotions, but our circumstances are not always in our control.

To be able to be in the change and chaos of life as an active observer is an invaluable asset to own.

I invite you to become an expert at it.

I have many tools to aid in this process to create ultimate ease of change and enjoyment.

Reach out for a phone consult. I would love to connect and hear about what is present for you.

Let’s make the most of the changes around us and in us. A more relaxed state of being might just change the world.

Happy Spring!

Mary

Dare to believe something new.

Beliefs are thoughts we think over and over again.

Habits are actions we take based on feelings produced by these beliefs.

This creates deep groves in our brain called, smaskara’s in yogic philosophy.

These grooves can become so deep, they create literal and figurative, “ruts”.

Deep tracks in the mind that produce the same responses over and over again based on mostly survival. Responding to acts of pleasure, rather than pain or not dying.

Fair enough.

However, most of us do not need this function anymore, on a day to day survival level anyway.

But it persist, making it harder in our sensory overloaded world to choose a different path.

Enter: evolutionary thinking.

Instead of responding to the Think, Feel, Act cycle ingrained in us from countless sources, we start to see how this automatic response cycle may just be limiting our potential of the future.

These ruts we fall in become so deep that we can’t even see the light.

And therefore, we don’t know how the hell to get out.

The truth is, you may be completely comfy where you are in your world.

But if you have any challenging relationships with people, substances, or can’t seem to ever get ahead of where you are to where you would like to be,

chances are, you’re in a rut.

However, you can’t be convinced of a better future, you have to have evidence for why changing your thoughts and intern your beliefs would be a positive thing in your life and potentially the lives of others.

If there is something in your life that you have an inkling could be better, or you spend a lot of mental power wishing it was different,

instead of trying to change that “thing”, how about thinking to the beat of a new groove?

The one you create in your brain.

Aren’t you tired of the same old things being problems, day after day?

The amazing tool that is your brain, has the capacity to turn problems into power.

It’s just wonderful.

For the potential of the future of what is possible for you and your life, (maybe even the world)

think a new thought,

I dare you.

This is the concept of Mind Body Coaching and it’s a big one, so take your time with it, please.

If you would like to talk more about how you can think on purpose to live the life you dream of,

and turn your problems into power, let’s talk more.

Also, you come to my Live workshop Saturday, March 9th from 1-3pm at Wild Hearts Wellness in Portland, OR.

There’s room for you here.

Mary

Meeting My Inner Muse

I was taught about self love, conceptually.

My self esteem has always been high.

I don’t worry too much about what other people think,

or being in the “in” crowd.

I’m an introvert, so I’m good with me,

most of the time.

However, real self adornment, self infatuation, (not to be confused with narcissism),

self worship and truly meeting my divine feminine nature, I knew nothing about,

until this year.

I never honored my monthly blood.

Even after I become a Mother 3 years ago, I didn’t say a prayer to my yoni,

or celebrate my womb as the sacred vessel of life it is.

Fortunately, I have always tapped into my creative powers, longings and musings.

This was what clued me into the fact that there was, and has always been a missing piece.

This was a deep worship and reverence of my sovereign nature.

The highest form of self love and self care.

Something I have practiced with undertones of self neglect, really.

Being self sufficient is one thing, being independent.

But being a magnet for my infinite potentiality,

now that’s where the answers lie.

Not because it sounds wonderful, but without it, my dreams will always just be a distant idea.

The reality of who and what I am and want to be in the world.

This by no means undermines the incredible life I have created and the wonderful person I am,

it is to simply say, there is

SO.

MUCH.

MORE.

A luscious life full of REAL sensual pleasures.

In the past I have clung to false pleasures of the outer world,

even through what I thought was sacred or healthy.

As well as using mind altering substances to again,

create a false sense of a deeper connection or independance.

I am just at the tale end of being sick, something that doesn’t happen to me much.

It was bad timing, I had many plans to get a big portion of an important project I am working on completed.

Or so I thought.

I have been thinking a lot about my idea of “self care” over the years

and without judgement, how it is no longer serving me, or maybe never was.

This time out, embracing whatever I was being offered as a gift to pay attention to,

gave me great pause.

It isn't the content I need to create to attract the clients, students, community and satisfaction.

It’s definitely not the social media posts, workout routine or happy hour meetings,

that I am missing the mark on.

It’s the inner musing, the worship of who I am calling in.

The invoking of my inner Muse to inspire the radiance of ME to be even more brilliant.

Digging deep, reaching higher, a burning down and blossoming out of…

Living and breathing this potentiality that is whatever I want it to be.

A boss.

A witch.

An example of what’s possible.

A holder of sacred space.

A sensual Goddess.

A sovereign Priestess.

A humbled servant of divine love.

A magical Mother.

A vibrant lover.

Who will you be when your dreams come true?

How will she walk and talk?

What activities will she engage in?

Who will she spend time with?

What feelings will she invoke in others.

How is she inspired?

How does she care for her self when she’s not well?

How does she celebrate?

I’ll tell you,

like a Queen Of Fucking Everything.

And so are you.

I harness my magnetic power and open to my infinite potentiality! -Sofia Thom

The Heart Is A Muscle, Work It.

This is the tagline of the kettlebell gym I went to today.

Knowing the name of the gym is, Bleeding Hearts,

I’m sure the statement has multiple meanings to them as well.

This to me is everything.

I am a Mind Body Coach.

This means I believe that all of the parts of our experience support one another.

The body supports the mind.

And the mind, the body.

But inside of all of that wonderful mess,

lies, the heart.

To stay balanced and moving forward,

we must acknowledge all of it.

With the heart,

we are talking about something very physical,

and yet, ethereal.

I believe it’s health matters on all planes of existnace

and again, supports the whole.

When we ignore our emotional body,

the part of us that is the gate way to our truest essence,

we get sick.

Our soul suffers.

Creativity is stifled.

We can not look at physical symptoms alone,

we must question the emotional state as well.

The art of allowing is a practice that helps.

When there are emotions that resonate in the heart space,

a sacred pause is required.

Tune into sensation.

Shit the perspective to witness.

Close your eyes.

Breathe deeper.

Sit back, watch and allow.

Soon the tightness around the heart softens.

Space is made.

The heart becomes stronger,

it is now safe from the minds rantings

that we must either fight, die or run.

Instead we show up calmly,

with courage and compassion.

We know the truth.

Our heart needs to be set free.

Each time you work your heart like this,

the process becomes easier.

Just like swinging kettlebells.

lose yourself

I couldn’t sleep last night.

This doesn’t happen often.

I have too many ideas

and not enough to show for my thoughts.

The endless possibilities of this year’s final dark moon was calling.

I am awake and listening.

In a world where anything is possible,

I can’t seem to hold on to the best of me and let it shine.

I don’t need fame

or fortune,

just the ability to sleep at night knowing my creative endeavors

mean something.

From my energetic and spiritual perspective, any pursuit made from the heart is worthy,

regardless of who knows.

This year I have been working with courage.

Not the absence of fear,

yet the presence of unflinching faith in vulnerability.

Saying yes more to the deepest parts of me

and saying no to the illusions that only ever served as a reminder of the distant truth.

I believe our work is what’s in front of us.

Its what we resist the most.

Moving through resistance brings great transformation.

But not when you white knuckle it.

You can’t move into a a state of real change kicking and screaming.

There has to be a sense of allowing and letting go.

Of losing yourself.

The regrets of the past

and the story of the future.

The constructs that have scared you into believing

you need to be different

and you’re not enough.

“If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?” (Eminem, 2002)

I want to believe I would throw myself wildly into the unknown of this moment.

Would you?

The reality is,

it’s not just one moment.

Every single moment holds this opportunity.

To go deep,

past the veil,

through the shadows and flames.

To lose yourself

and to find what you’ve become

wasn’t so scary after all.

It was you.

Free Will: your human experience bonus.

Free will has been a philosophical debate for centuries, as it stands, most all constructs of society depend a great deal on the fact that we as human beings have, “voluntary choice or decision”, according to the Merriam-Webster definition. I would wager that most people believe that they choose what they do, freely.

What I know to be true for life is, that there are things we DO NOT have control over, these are facts that exist outside of ourselves, (other people, the weather, etc…). Then there are the things we DO have control over, namely, our minds. These are our perceptions, intentions and ideas. These inform how we think, feel and interact with that which we do not have control over. Of course, there are countless amount of outside factors that can influence how we think, feel and ultimately respond, but if we build a more intimate relationship with the workings of our own mind, the outside influences have much less power over our minds.

Abraham-Hicks, the highly regarded law of attraction guru says that “ a belief is a thought you keep thinking.” This is how we turn the Facts of our life into problems. We keep thinking the thought that this one thing sucks over and over again, and becomes our truth. There are a couple of options. If you hate your job, you can either A) quit B) make it a problem you dwell on OR C) change the way you think about it.

This is where setting a “Life Intention” comes into play. If you know how you want to be in the world in every moment, your intention for living your best life is predetermined by you, no external factors can shake that. You remember your values, ideals and goals. You can be in any situation and respond the same by paying attention to your thoughts. This doesn’t mean you are always happy, but you can be in a state of acceptnace about feeling what’s true to you, not predetermined by someone else free will.

Choose your thoughts, feel your feels and live with free will as the reminder that ultimatly, it’s up to you.