Has your PMS intensified after your Pregnancy? Moon mapping your cycle. (for all We'moon at any stage)

All my bleeding ladies,

put your hands up!

You can be at any stage of your cycle, bleeding or not, hysterectomy, menopause or post menopause.

We all still have a womb space where our divine feminine nature lives.

And we all, and I believe Men too, have a deep connection with our celestial Mother, La Luna.

She beckons our attention, poise and awe.

As my three year old just told me, La Luna follows us.

She has been in my view all week, day and night.

Not for one moment will She allow me to forget about my sacred nature as a priestess of the moon,

her humbled disciple and sister.

I have a long, complicated and very intimate relationship with my moon cycle, as do most women.

The most recent chapter of my story with her, we’ll call her Rose, was one about my new role as a Mother.

My son is 3 now, but Rose and I are still hashing out the details.

As would be expected, growing a human in my womb, complicated our relationship, in a good way.

There are many ways to grow and shift your understanding of the womb and Rose, but a baby is sure fire.

My overall experience of life intensified.

During the week before my bleeding, and none of this uncommon, but I felt much less in control over my thoughts, feelings and actions.

I could logically understand it was my hormones and my body giving me information of how it wanted to be treated, but I was, and still am, not use to how drastic things can get. Especailly, if I do not take care.

To the point.

It became very obvious to me that things had changed from Maiden to Motherhood, in my inner and outer worlds on many levels.

The other thing that was apparent, was that every month, the change in Rose had it’s own flavor.

Some months I was a portal of fire.

Others, just a bit down and emotional.

Some, needed more rest.

And again, body aches.

There were moths, like this one, that were pretty even keeled, but my confidence was shot.

This is just a mood, not a 24 hour/7 days a week type of thing.

I am still functioning during these days.

As I became in more communion with the moon itself, I started realizing that the moon was a common denominator in the equation my ever changing relationship with Rose.

On to moon charting. There are many ways to do this. This year, I started using my lovely We’Moon spiral bound calendar, (thanks, Mom!), because the moon phases are already printed, there is plenty of room for writing and it’s just a beautiful ritual in sacred sisterhood.

The day I bleed is the first day, and I write 1-28 on each day proceeding.

From here, I can watch what phase of the moon my PMS cycle falls into.

I write in each day of my 28 days, how I am feeling physically, emotionally, spiritually and anything else that can inform how I plan my schedule.

After 3 or 4 months you will notice some patterns and can start to make a more specific chart of the moon phase during whatever time of your cycle seems most impacted. For example: Waxing first quarter moon, sensitive and sore breasts, days 21-28, generally speaking.

Maybe you don’t start new projects on these days, or take new client calls or have an intimacy meeting with your partner.

You also may not plan a trip or a dentist appointment.

Maybe during a point in your cycle you are usual ready to take on the world. No holding back.

These are the times when you want to book times for making offers or networking.

Even extended family time or travel.

Set your self up for success.

I have done it too many times, where I just need to do the bare minimum and rest.

I end up beating my self up for not getting everything off of my list.

However, if I plan ahead and know what kind of day it’s going to be based on Rose and I, I will plan accordingly.

I’m telling you, it helps a lot.

It takes a little bit of work, but if you do it every night before bed, it becomes a sacred ritual of checking in with your body, mind and heart.

As far as coaching goes, it works just like another emotion.

Recognize it, state it out loud, place it, allow it and watch it change.

No emotions or thoughts last forever.

They do change quicker with less resistance.

Accommodate your needs.

There’s room for you here and I can help you understand, on a deeper level, your own inner and outer workings through Mind Body Coaching.

Email me with a time to set up a phone call.

Luna Blessings. xo

your personal alter

If you could create a ceremony for yourself.

Your essence and all the things that create your human experience,

let’s just call it life,

what would your alter be?

When I ask my self this, the Where, is the first things that comes to mind.

I visualize a babbling brook in the middle of a Pacific Northwest Rainforest.

Would it be your home, or a place in nature, another country even?

What would adorn your sacred alter, this representation of all you are and will be?

Would there be flowers? What kind? Can you smell them? Will there be photos, nature objects or your favorite pair of shoes? There are no rules, this is your sacred life alter.

Who would be present? Your ancestors, spirit guides, animal friends, or maybe just you… your best lover?

When would this life ceremony take place? What’s your favorite time of year? What time of day? Would the moon be blessing you or would the stars be the brightest thing is the sky?

Why? Would would the mood be? Would it be to uplift and support your spirit during a time or mourning or grief or to celebrate an accomplishment or self care and recognition? Or just because you are alive?

Be as wild or as simple as you would like.

Maybe your alter is the setting sun on the beach.

I love this meditation/visualization because it brings into view all of the romantic, beautiful things about our life that already exist. It helps us get cozy in the present moment which is where our dreams are born.

There is no need to wait to celebrate your life.

The one you have is perfect, even if it’s messy and doesn’t feel great.

The reason I know it’s perfect, is because you are here, alive and able to feel all of the feels.

In this moment, you are capable of thinking thoughts that can determine how you feel and act, creating the reality that is your life.

I would love to see your alter come to life!

If you would like to work on this meditation with me in person or over the phone, message me and we will set up a time for a mini session.

Enjoy the ceremony that is your life.

What's your imprint?

Leave everything a little better than you found it.

This is huge.

And actually really easy.

It is how I live my life.

Notice a piece of garbage?

Pick it up.

Grumpy store clerk?

Smile and ask them how they are.

Something fell from someones pocket?

Return the item.

A person needs the door open?

Run ahead to help.

Connecting with friends?

Inquire further.

With a group at dinner?

Wait until everyone has sat down to eat.

Having a meeting?

Put your phone away.

Someone down on their luck?

Stop to say hi.

There are countless ways of leaving the world in better shape.

These are easy and they mean a lot.

Kindness is contagious.

It also makes you feel better about your life.

A little goes a long way.

I want to be a person that notices what needs to be done,

and does it.

Not so I can say I did.

But because I can sleep better at night,

and I grow with more awareness.

Take care of one another and it will catch on.

Lend a hand

Listen deeper

Pay attention

Show up

Lead by example

You’ll be surprised how this changes everything.

Year of the Impeccable Boss

I have been writing a lot about future focus.

I have a lot of new ventures on the horizon

and I can’t wait to dive in with intentions and a ground work laid.

I tell my clients that the future is just a story,

so tell yourself the best one.

I also teach them how to live your fullest life in the present.

This is how you create your future.

You can project the brightest story

where you win every time,

but unless you take action in the direction of that story,

which happens in the present,

the future story untold, will likely end up with a similar flavor of the past.

If you gave your 2019 a title that invoked what you needed to hone in on,

to actualize your future dream story, what would it be?

Mine is: Impeccable Boss.

For my self, my clients, my community, my family and my students.

I want to show up prepared for everything in do, in mind, body and heart.

I will create an atainable schedule and honor it.

I will know what my priorities are

and not allow my self to be distracted with that which does not serve my growth.

I will rest in sweet surrender when the moon casts her shadow upon me.

I will soften the layer just below my outer shell that longs for collaboration and sisterhood.

I will make art and love all of my down time.

I will treat my self with sovereign tenderness.

I will lead by example as to what is possible for growth.

Compassion will be my guide.

Unflinching faith will be my rock.

Deep listening will be my fairy Godmother.

Starting January 15th, I will be moving into an amazing wellness center here in Portland, OR, where I will see Mind Body Coaching Clients and lead my Mind Body Ritual Yoga class. This is a safe space where we can work together to make a theme for your 2019 and remove any obstacles in your way. Email me to set up an initial mini session to chat!

Oh the Thinks you can Think!

As the year comes to a close,

light is limited and

the working world slows a little to invite time for celebrating.

It is the perfect opportunity

to take the time now, while you have it,

to ask your self what is present for me?

We spend our days filling our minds with thoughts that distract us from our real goals.

It’s time, for me anyway, to stop the needless distraction,

and get focused on the nitty-gritty.

I often use the excuse that I can’t get real work done when I am home with my son.

But the truth is, if it is a priority, I can make a schedule that works.

What is important to you?

What problems would you like to solve?

What are the real “facts” about your situation

and what is created mind drama?

If you can sift through the BS of your mind,

you’ll find there is plenty ample opportunity

to spend your time in a way that produces the results you are looking for.

We distract our minds for many reasons.

One, because we are scared of failure,

and two, because when we get crystal clear about who is in charge,

there’s no one else to blame.

Failure is nothing but being in the exact same place a you are now,

except you have more information for the next attempt,

and you can at least say you tried.

When we do nothing, there’s no chance for success.

And self responsibility…it’s time to take your power back.

It’s actually very empowering,

to take the time, to manage your life

by managing your mind.

With practice we can choose what thoughts to think on propose.

Then we take responsibility for the choice of how to spend our time, money and energy.

I am empowering my self to talk less and reflect more.

To use the time I would be “venting” or expressing my self about my life,

and write, read or meditate.

With this I can better understand what thoughts are no longer of service.

I think it’s 100% necessary to self reflect if you are interested in growth, in any area of your life.

I have a ton of tools that can help you start thinking the thinks that are inline with the life you most desire.

Contact me to talk about Mind Body Coaching.

-Think! Think and wonder. Wonder and think. Oh the Thinks you can Think up, only if you try! (Dr. Seuss)

Do you know where you're growing?

2018 was an amazing year for me.

One of the more deliberate years in recent memory.

What I mean by that is,

I was in control of consciously creating my reality.

I did’t show up to the past unfolding over and over again.

This doesn’t mean I don’t have a routine or maintain a schedule,

it means I was in the active process of growing my brightest future.

I had many profound experiences.

A deep remembering of the path I am on.

The path is one of freedom and light.

One of unconditional love and compassion.

It is a path of growth, rather than change.

I see change as a compromise of who I am.

I see growth as the opportunity to become more of what is possible.

The way to do this is to understand where I’ve been and where I want to be.

No matter what, I am and will always be the perfection of the essence that is me.

We all are always perfect as is.

I seek growth to challenge the depths of this expreience.

The growth I am talking about is for more awareness.

It is not to have more happiness,

because I know that happiness available to me now,

at any point in the process.

Growing awareness is a lot of daily work of watching and maintaining the mind.

It’s the awareness that makes the time in between giving away your power and remembering you are the only one who can control your mind, shorter.

It’s the awareness that turns problems into power.

It’s evolutionary thinking.

We don’t need to grow to survive,

but let’s see what we’re capable of.

I’m in the planning stages of my 2019.

Everything’s coming up Mary, my best year yet.

I am going to guarantee it by practicing what it will feel like

when my dreams are actualized.

The feelings I will feel in 2019, my biggest growth year yet:

Impecable

Gathered

Flowing

Focused

Beaming

The work is now thinking in alignment with these feelings and qualities.

It’s going to be a wild ride.

I can not wait.

If you need some help planting your 2019 “ I’m on fire garden”',

let me know and we will schedule a mini coaching session.

The more we all grow, the brighter the glow.

Beginners Mind

Before you knew about a thing,

there was no judgement.

Especially in today’s western world,

we seem to be growing up quicker.

There is almost no choice.

Because of the continuous exposure to false pleasures, and pressures to be happy,

we want all of the things at a younger and younger age.

Growing up fast doesn’t mean you are better equipped emotionally,

in fact, I think the imbalance between societal maturity

and emotional intelligence is extremely harmful.

Beginners mind is a concept I have studied over the years through my yoga practice

and other eastern arts and philosophies.

It is an idea that we can shift our perspective

back to before the mind was jaded and judging,

look at the same situation, person or event

as though we are experiancing it for the first time.

This isn’t easy, but a great practice in mindful thinking.

Remembering we are in control of our thoughts in any moment.

The fact is, that each moment IS a new experience.

We prejudge so much of our life,

that we don’t allow ourselves the moments of wonder and awe we deserve,

and frankly, we are stripping that sweetness from the lives of our children.

I have a new motto in my house when things start to get a little crazy.

Stop, take a breath and smile.

It snaps you out of your normal ways of reacting

and allows for new, softer ways of responding to life.

It’s really a breath of fresh air to allow a sense of innocents back into your life.

This technique is very usefuly for our creative endeavors.

When practicing yoga, painting, playing music or even a walk you have taken 100 times,

can you step into the seat of curiosity?

What will be different this time if you are not just going through the motions?

You will be surprised about what shows up and it also takes pressure off of perfection.

Pick one thing you do regularly and for a month,

approach it with eyes wide open.

Don't bitch about it.

I was a tidy child.

Control issues.

I’ve gotten better, in my older age.

There are much more interesting things to do than clean.

I grew up with a single Mother and 2 younger sisters.

She worked full time and also went to school.

We didn't have a dishwasher.

My sisters were too little for cleaning.

It would drive me nuts to see the dishes pile up.

Of course, my Mother, got to everything when she could.

I would take it upon myself to clean, do dishes and laundry.

Not so much to be a big helper,

but because of my neurosis.

After completing such tasks,

I remember not looking for praise,

but having the desier to complain about something I had done

by my own free will.

It served a purpose for me and no one else.

When I would start this up with Mom,

she would say, if you’re going to do something without being asked,

Don’t bitch about it.

Wow, game changer.

I have remembered that teaching for 25 years.

It stuck with me as some of the best advice my Mother gave me.

Think about how many things we do, with unspoken agreements from other people.

Your children didn’t ask you to make them lunch.

You don’t need to vacuum to survive.

No one said you have to walk the dog.

Just because I think this “has to get done”,

doesn’t make it law.

Think about the manuals you have for other people in your life,

that they have no clue about.

Do what you do for you.

If you want help or agreements about systems,

make sure everyone involved is in agreement and on the same page.

It’s the same for how you choose to raise your children,

spend your free time,

eat

and live your life in general.

When we project on to others what’s right and wrong for them,

it can drive us nuts and strain relationships.

As long as no one is being hurt,

let people live their lives how they choose.

It may not make sense to you, but if it doesn’t affect you,

who cares?

“You oughta spend a little more time dealing with yourself, and a little less time worrying about what your brother does.” (Ferris Buellers Day Off)

Mom also told me, kill with kindness.

The best.

Thanks Mom.

XO

What have you done for me lately?

I’ll try this again.

I am getting better at Self Care, slowing but surly.

I’m great at doing what I want to.

What makes me happy.

What fulfills my creative needs.

It’s the slowing down when I need it most.

As far as when I really need to be pampering my self.

Take some quiet time for conscious relaxation.

The days where I feel a little rage,

or hormones are coming on strong.

Instead of taking a bath and reading,

I tend to be destructive.

This may involve spiraling about how to get out of here,

to a place where there are no thoughts.

(which is just my own head)

Or drink alcohol to buffer.

Or have a rich meal to feel something other than chaos.

Of course, it doesn’t work.

It makes me mentally and physically sick.

The worry, more than anything I could put into my body.

However, awareness is the first step to transformation.

I recognize this little demon the second she shows up.

I have come far enough in my process, that I can make friends with her.

And the length of her stay is much shorter than it use to be.

I am learning kindness and compassion for her.

I am learning that she doesn’t want to be fed with anger and worry.

What she is longing for is a deep, long, cathartic hug.

Permission to know it’s okay to take a day off

from being on.

I practice the work I offer others, daily.

But it doesn’t mean I don’t have old patterns.

On the contrary,

actively working on myself makes me a better coach.

My mentor, Brooke Castillo, says life is 50/50.

No matter how much you accomplish,

or how much you have.

Your emotions are going to be 50% positive

and 50% negative.

But the negative is no longer bad once you make friends.

It’s all the same.

You learn to love all of it.

And it informs you.

Even in a spiral where nothing is really “wrong”.

It’s just an opportunity to go to the movies,

to treat yourself to a long bath,

to get your nails done or take a nap.

Whatever allows you to just be

in the living of life.

I also have some huge things coming in the new year.

They are exciting and scary.

I am really putting myself out there for success

and the resistance,

the self limiting talk is showing up,

as I knew she would.

I had my day.

There are no regrets.

Now it’s time to tighten my laces,

put on some Janet

and get to work.

The Heart Is A Muscle, Work It.

This is the tagline of the kettlebell gym I went to today.

Knowing the name of the gym is, Bleeding Hearts,

I’m sure the statement has multiple meanings to them as well.

This to me is everything.

I am a Mind Body Coach.

This means I believe that all of the parts of our experience support one another.

The body supports the mind.

And the mind, the body.

But inside of all of that wonderful mess,

lies, the heart.

To stay balanced and moving forward,

we must acknowledge all of it.

With the heart,

we are talking about something very physical,

and yet, ethereal.

I believe it’s health matters on all planes of existnace

and again, supports the whole.

When we ignore our emotional body,

the part of us that is the gate way to our truest essence,

we get sick.

Our soul suffers.

Creativity is stifled.

We can not look at physical symptoms alone,

we must question the emotional state as well.

The art of allowing is a practice that helps.

When there are emotions that resonate in the heart space,

a sacred pause is required.

Tune into sensation.

Shit the perspective to witness.

Close your eyes.

Breathe deeper.

Sit back, watch and allow.

Soon the tightness around the heart softens.

Space is made.

The heart becomes stronger,

it is now safe from the minds rantings

that we must either fight, die or run.

Instead we show up calmly,

with courage and compassion.

We know the truth.

Our heart needs to be set free.

Each time you work your heart like this,

the process becomes easier.

Just like swinging kettlebells.

finding vibhuti

2018 was my year of saying yes,

to all of the things I usually say no to.

You can’t transform if you don’t change.

It’s not possible.

I am a hands on learner.

I can read books and watch videos,

but the essence for me is in the pulse of life connection.

It’s also hard for me to connect to a community virtually,

but I have. And that feels good too.

Every time I close my eyes for conscious breathing,

I realize I have all of the answers I will ever need

and also, that I know absolutely nothing at all.

I was invited to attend a sisters circle last night.

When I heard about it, I was intrigued.

I have very little experience as an adult in a group of women

on an intimate level.

It is something I am actively seeking.

But of course,

when the time came,

I could have easily stayed home.

I didn’t know what to expect really.

I may know one or two of the sisters, but not close.

But, this is my year and I have to put in the work

when the offer is so blatently presented.

I bought some dark chocolate as an offering.

Brushed my hair.

Had an early dinner with my sweetheart and off I went.

I am not a shy person,

in fact, I have no problem meeting most people.

I am however an introvert and never get lonely,

which is why staying home is always the easier option.

The details of the entire event are not what is important here.

However, I was gifted a very special sacred powder manifest from the hands of a revered Guru.

Blessed by enchanting Priestess named Amethyst.

I felt the subtle layer of my body where I hold my deepest truths, soften.

I cried.

I signed so deeply that I could see the basket of arms for the game of trust I have been longing to experience with a group of women open eternally for me.

Needless to say, it was life altering.

I didn’t know anyone.

But I knew every single one of them by heart.

If I didn’t say yes,

I would have been in my pajamas

listening to a podcast

working on my watercolors.

All great things.

But things I have done before and will have the change to again.

If you want your life to look different,

you have to step outside of your comfort zone.

You have to say yes to the things that knock on your door.

Put your coat on

and go for a walk.

It always turns out way better than you could have possibly imagined.

Next time you wish your life was different,

ask your self when was the last time you changed?

Christmas in Mexico

This is what I want the title of my memoir to be.

As it would be the ideal description of my life.

Sparkling lights.

Religious iconography.

Perfect sunsets.

And of course, margaritas.

I look for plane tickets to some location that is not my home usually weekly.

I never book a flight.

But knowing I could if I wanted to makes me somehow feel better.

That if all else fails,

I’ve got an out.

Wrong.

Fat chance.

I’ve been there, and done that,

too many times to count.

If I can live on the beach and teach yoga,

everything will be amazing.

If Im in a country steeped with cultural tradition and art,

I will feel more alive and connected to spirit.

Where siesta are encouraged,

and a 6 day work week is a way of life.

Where families live together and support one another

until it makes sense to go off on their own.

Everyone has their own “Christmas in Mexico”,

but we all know that;

where ever you go, there you are.

The, If I just had this one thing, then everything will be amazing, syndrome

is a way of life for many of us.

It’s only the momentary tequila buzz or sea breeze sun salutation

that convinces me it would change everything.

Running away to a new house, a new country, a new partner or a new job,

changes nothing about who you are on the inside.

How you control your thoughts.

How you stay motivated and encouraged.

How you offer compassion to yourself and others.

Unless you are in an abusive situation, you really can be happy anywhere

because emotions are based on thoughts, not circumstance.

Do you have preference? Yes.

Are there things that suite your skills better? Absolutely.

My mentor, Brooke Castillo, of The Life Coach School says, change nothing until you’re happy.

Other people and things don’t create your happiness, your thoughts do.

If you believe if free will,

then you should believe you have the freedom of what you choose to think.

Will people be jerks? Yep.

Will your job be boring? You can guarantee it.

But it still does not choose your thoughts for you.

I choose to find joy and contentment in the act of being alive.

If I have expectations of someone,

it is my responsibility to make sure they know that and are in agreement with it.

If I want to feel more successful with work and making meaningful connections,

I need to get my self out there and take a step in the direction of the greatness I seek.

It will not happen with me tucked away watching Netflix.

Be the bad ass boss that you are.

In control of your thoughts and feelings.

And then, when there are random acts of kindness in the world, bonus.

Trust me, when you start taking care of you the best,

leaving things in the world better than you found them,

you are in a state of allowing abundance to come your way.

Expect nothing, work your butt off and you will receive more than you ever thought possible.

This doesn’t mean I don’t plan on spending Christmas in Mexico,

because that sounds amazing.

But it might mean a Margarita in the snow may be a new tradition.

The happiness I seek only exists in one place.

And I don’t need to get on a plane to find it.

Salud!

Bubble Boundaries

I have three year old son.

He is extremely affectionate.

He also uses his need/desire for physical contact as a manipulation tool,

when he wants to distract me from the matter at hand.

It’s very clever.

How can a Mother deny her Childs request for hugs and kisses?

It’s hard, but it must be done.

He also doesn’t fully understand personal space.

He expresses his boundaries, but has yet to understand that I have them too.

We came up with a term in our house called “bubble boundary”.

The more I think about relationships and how offended we can get by the other,

but how little we look at our own actions, I realized, it’s not just three year olds,

it’s everyone.

I don’t need to explain, hopefully, what bubble boundary means.

But what I would like to express is that it’s good to define what your bubble boundaries are.

And, to have a way you can clearly and easily express them to people that pop yours.

People who we think don’t respect our boundaries,

might not actually know what they are.

We spend a lot of time assuming false realities based on our own perceptions of the world,

and not the reality of the others actual thoughts and intentions.

Virtual communication is particularly good for creating these assumptions.

Confrontation is hard.

If you can get very clear to yourself about what your boundries are,

you can express them without worry of too much drama.

Boundaries are necessary in maintaining healthy relationships.

They are personal space limitations we all have and need.

I think if we establish boundaries more in our relationships,

a deeper level of understanding can exist without anger or feelings getting hurt.

Once you have made things clear before an incident occurs,

all you need to do is throw your hands in the air and say,

“Bubble Boundary”, and it’s an automatic non—negotiable pause.

We can not blame others for making us feel bad

when they don’t know what our limits, needs and boundaries are.

It is every individuals personal responsibility to ask for what they need.

If those needs are not met, then it is your choice to direct your energy elsewhere.

If you're feeling the victim by other peoples actions,

try expressing your bubble boundaries, it might do the trick.

Finding your way in the dark

What is significant about a new moon?

To some it means absolutely nothing.

To others, they plan their days around the lunar cycle.

Does it change your life regardless if you are aware of it or not?

I think so.

The moon is our closest celestial sister.

Many things on earth work they way they do because of the presence of the moon.

If you choose to pay attention, it becomes obvious.

The new moon for me represents a blank slate of limitless possibilities.

If you had a black chalkboard that represented your life, what would you draw?

Being the last new moon of the year, I think it’s important to answer this question

with refection on the year that has past.

I tend to focus my energy on the the things that really blossomed

and what supported that growth.

Appreciation for the existence of something keeps it thriving.

What was useful that helped you grow this year?

How can you nourish that, so it keeps supporting you?

When I ask my self this question, two things come up.

One, is my dear life partner.

And the other is a time this year of deep re-membering.

I want to feed and nourish these things so they continue to help me flourish.

So I can add to the amazing gifts they all ready offer in my life.

My partner and I went through great transformation and dove deeper into our intimacy.

Not to mention his presence as an active co-listener, guide and collaborator.

This made room for my own personal journey inward to grow and expand.

I was lead to a retreat where I connected with a sisterhood I was longing for.

There I found a deep rooted space for the new phase in my life as a Mother.

And the reclamation of the Creatrix, Witch, Goddess and Priestess I have always been.

It changed everything.

On this Dark Moon, I give space for those gifts in my life to run wild.

To visualize how I want to honor and feed them.

And also how I want to continue to grow in the light of such beauty.

Finding your way in the dark means there’s no right or wrong way,

there’s no path laid out for you.

Only the calling of your cosmic hearts desires and dreams.

You get to decide what to take with you and what can stay behind.

I’m choosing to take into the dark those things which bring light into my life.

So when I am scared or lost, I will have a beacon to take refuge in.

The path is always yours to choose, but choose what comes along for the ride wisely.

I invite you to begin the preparations for the new year now.

Take your time.

Reflect and really think about what you want to draw on your chalkboard.

The light of the moon will be back soon with new messaged to share.

Until then, dream wildly.

There’s room for you here.

New Moon Blessings,

Mary

lose yourself

I couldn’t sleep last night.

This doesn’t happen often.

I have too many ideas

and not enough to show for my thoughts.

The endless possibilities of this year’s final dark moon was calling.

I am awake and listening.

In a world where anything is possible,

I can’t seem to hold on to the best of me and let it shine.

I don’t need fame

or fortune,

just the ability to sleep at night knowing my creative endeavors

mean something.

From my energetic and spiritual perspective, any pursuit made from the heart is worthy,

regardless of who knows.

This year I have been working with courage.

Not the absence of fear,

yet the presence of unflinching faith in vulnerability.

Saying yes more to the deepest parts of me

and saying no to the illusions that only ever served as a reminder of the distant truth.

I believe our work is what’s in front of us.

Its what we resist the most.

Moving through resistance brings great transformation.

But not when you white knuckle it.

You can’t move into a a state of real change kicking and screaming.

There has to be a sense of allowing and letting go.

Of losing yourself.

The regrets of the past

and the story of the future.

The constructs that have scared you into believing

you need to be different

and you’re not enough.

“If you had

One shot

Or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted

In one moment

Would you capture it

Or just let it slip?” (Eminem, 2002)

I want to believe I would throw myself wildly into the unknown of this moment.

Would you?

The reality is,

it’s not just one moment.

Every single moment holds this opportunity.

To go deep,

past the veil,

through the shadows and flames.

To lose yourself

and to find what you’ve become

wasn’t so scary after all.

It was you.

What do you value?

Our senses are on constant overload.

It’s more important now than ever,

that our thoughts are strongly rooted in our values.

I think this is true for the groups we belong to,

most importantly, our families.

Have you ever asked your partner, children or yourself, what your values are?

It might be time.

If you never think about them or define them, how do you know if you are supporting them?

When my values are clear in my head I make better decisions.

I bounce back from disappointments.

I take things other people do less personal.

Most importantly, my thoughts are in alignment with my highest self.

This is the fullest and best expression of who I want to be and why.

When we define our values, there’s no guessing.

We are better at attracting others with who are like minded.

We are better at showing up for our loved ones, community and ourself in ways that are meaningful.

Values are things that are of great importance in our lives.

They take priority over other things.

They hold great merit and worth for ways we spend our time at work and at play.

The values I hold of highest regard in my life and what they mean to me are:

Authenticity: the willingness to be vulnerable and bold.

Responsibility: taking ownership of my thoughts, feelings and actions

Compassion: the ability to exhibit empathy for myself and all beings everywhere.

Creativity: expressing the spark of my essence that will never die and connects me to the great mysteries of life.

Adventure: from the everyday routines to off trail backpacking, there is an shift of the heart when you allow each new moment to shine.

If you are interested in creating some real intimacy in your life, this will do the trick.

Get cleat about you.

No more excuses.

No more blaming.

The time is now.

There’s room in this for you.

Let’s ride this wave together.